Dear Future Husband
"You've gotta know how to treat me like a lady, even when I'm acting crazy, and tell me everything's alright."
Do you recognize these song lyrics? If you guessed "Dear Future Husband" by secular pop artist Meghan Trainor, you guessed right.
I came across this song while listening to her song "Better When I'm Dancing," which she performed for the Peanuts movie (because I love the Peanuts movie, and listen to the soundtrack all the time). YouTube was on auto play, and "Dear Future Husband" was the next song on the playlist.
If you're listening to it for the first time, you'll probably notice how upbeat and fun the song is (I did anyway). I thought it was cute and sweet that she was singing about her future husband. But after I listened to it a second time, I paid more attention to the lyrics. Needless to say, I became disturbed.
If you don't know the song, she is essentially listing the things her future husband should be doing/not doing. Now, let me first say that it is not wrong at all to have a list like that. It's good to have guidelines for what you look for in a future husband/wife. But the list she had was all about her. It was not godly at all. Of course, I shouldn't be surprised.
She starts the song with, "Dear future husband, here's a few things you need to know if you wanna be my one and only, all my life."
Okay. Alright. That's fine.
"Take me on a date. I deserve a break. And don't forget the flowers every anniversary. 'Cause if you'll treat me right, I'll be the perfect wife, buying groceries, buy-buying what you need."
Well, that's kind of cute. Let's go on.
"You got that 9 to 5. But baby so do I. So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies. I never learned to cook. But I can write a hook. Sing along with me, sing-sing along with me."
Okay, hold up a minute. Did you catch that? "So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies." This was when I started to cringe. Ouch. It sounds as though she is making fun of stay-at-home wives/mothers.
Second verse after the chorus: "After every fight, just apologize. And maybe then I'll let you try and rock my body right. Even if I was wrong, you know I'm never wrong. Why disagree? Why-why disagree?"
Okay, let's stop right there. Besides the fact she is talking inappropriately here, it sounds as though she is saying she will never apologize. I know everyone jokes around about women always being right. But as women, we are still supposed to humble ourselves, and realize we make mistakes as well as men. We are not better than them.
I'm not going to quote this whole song, but I will quote the last lyrics, "Future husband, better love me right." Wow. I feel bad for whoever her husband/future husband is/will be.
So, what is God's view on all of this future husband/wife stuff? What does He have to say about it?
Well, I'm not married, so I'm not this great expert on marriage. But I what I can talk about is what God says in His Word about it.
We can find the meaning of marriage in Ephesians 5, starting in verse 22, "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything." (Eph. 5:22-24) Paul then goes on to instruct husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
Now obviously, those who are not Christians will not understand this language. We shouldn't expect them to follow these guidelines. But what about those who are Christians? Should we follow the world's view of marriage? All for selfish pleasure and power-seeking over the opposite sex? Or should we follow God's Word and submit to each other?
Ephesians 5:33 says, "So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
There you have it. God lays out how marriage is supposed to work. Even though you may not be married, or you may be too young to think about marriage, you should still understand these principles. If you don't look into what God is saying about marriage, you can easily fall into the same trap as the majority of the world.
I don't know about you, but I would much rather submit and make myself humble, than to be power-hungry, to seek only pleasure, and to act selfish.
So let's be different. Let's go against the flow of the rest of the world, and follow the voice of the Lord. Let's write "Dear Future Husband" or "Dear Future Wife" songs/letters that will please God and His view of marriage, not the world's.
Meghan Trainor, for both you and your husband's sake, I sincerely hope you'll change your view of marriage.
Do you recognize these song lyrics? If you guessed "Dear Future Husband" by secular pop artist Meghan Trainor, you guessed right.
I came across this song while listening to her song "Better When I'm Dancing," which she performed for the Peanuts movie (because I love the Peanuts movie, and listen to the soundtrack all the time). YouTube was on auto play, and "Dear Future Husband" was the next song on the playlist.
If you're listening to it for the first time, you'll probably notice how upbeat and fun the song is (I did anyway). I thought it was cute and sweet that she was singing about her future husband. But after I listened to it a second time, I paid more attention to the lyrics. Needless to say, I became disturbed.
If you don't know the song, she is essentially listing the things her future husband should be doing/not doing. Now, let me first say that it is not wrong at all to have a list like that. It's good to have guidelines for what you look for in a future husband/wife. But the list she had was all about her. It was not godly at all. Of course, I shouldn't be surprised.
She starts the song with, "Dear future husband, here's a few things you need to know if you wanna be my one and only, all my life."
Okay. Alright. That's fine.
"Take me on a date. I deserve a break. And don't forget the flowers every anniversary. 'Cause if you'll treat me right, I'll be the perfect wife, buying groceries, buy-buying what you need."
Well, that's kind of cute. Let's go on.
"You got that 9 to 5. But baby so do I. So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies. I never learned to cook. But I can write a hook. Sing along with me, sing-sing along with me."
Okay, hold up a minute. Did you catch that? "So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies." This was when I started to cringe. Ouch. It sounds as though she is making fun of stay-at-home wives/mothers.
Second verse after the chorus: "After every fight, just apologize. And maybe then I'll let you try and rock my body right. Even if I was wrong, you know I'm never wrong. Why disagree? Why-why disagree?"
Okay, let's stop right there. Besides the fact she is talking inappropriately here, it sounds as though she is saying she will never apologize. I know everyone jokes around about women always being right. But as women, we are still supposed to humble ourselves, and realize we make mistakes as well as men. We are not better than them.
I'm not going to quote this whole song, but I will quote the last lyrics, "Future husband, better love me right." Wow. I feel bad for whoever her husband/future husband is/will be.
So, what is God's view on all of this future husband/wife stuff? What does He have to say about it?
Well, I'm not married, so I'm not this great expert on marriage. But I what I can talk about is what God says in His Word about it.
We can find the meaning of marriage in Ephesians 5, starting in verse 22, "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything." (Eph. 5:22-24) Paul then goes on to instruct husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church.
Now obviously, those who are not Christians will not understand this language. We shouldn't expect them to follow these guidelines. But what about those who are Christians? Should we follow the world's view of marriage? All for selfish pleasure and power-seeking over the opposite sex? Or should we follow God's Word and submit to each other?
Ephesians 5:33 says, "So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
There you have it. God lays out how marriage is supposed to work. Even though you may not be married, or you may be too young to think about marriage, you should still understand these principles. If you don't look into what God is saying about marriage, you can easily fall into the same trap as the majority of the world.
I don't know about you, but I would much rather submit and make myself humble, than to be power-hungry, to seek only pleasure, and to act selfish.
So let's be different. Let's go against the flow of the rest of the world, and follow the voice of the Lord. Let's write "Dear Future Husband" or "Dear Future Wife" songs/letters that will please God and His view of marriage, not the world's.
Meghan Trainor, for both you and your husband's sake, I sincerely hope you'll change your view of marriage.
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